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A Little Support Goes a Long Way

The significance of a friendly gesture such as a nod, a hand shake, a smile, a hug and the like is like  a day of sunshine.  

Even just a few words of kindness when someone is down by an email or card can make the difference between the feeling of alone and the feeling of support.

It takes so little to do something kind for someone. Never mind the selfish reasons why you can't because when you say you can't ...it really means you won't.

Acknowledging someone for their accomplishments; no matter how small, or a friendly word of advice when they need it shows support for another.

Acknowledging someone when they are sad about a certain event can mean so much during a time of grief. Showing we care takes so little.

It's the quality of the relationship we have within ourselves that will determine if we have the capability to have lasting meaningful relationships with others. This transforms into our businesses as well. It is the difference between just ‘doing a job' and having a relationship with the people we're doing business with.

Think about it and put your personal differences aside.

A little support can go a long way.

It could make a difference in your life...and your business.

                                                       

 

Celeste "Sally" Cheeseman  is a Realtor-Associate® and Certified Residential Specialist (CRS) with Century 21 Liberty Homes in Mililani, Hawaii. With a sharp understanding that a listening ear is the key to a client's needs  she serves the island of Oahu (Honolulu County) and all Hawaii Military Relocations, Hawaii Retirees, Hawaii Job Transfers and Hawaii Residents, Home Buyers and Sellers.

 

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Comment balloon 42 commentsCeleste "SALLY" Cheeseman • August 29 2010 02:07PM

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Growing up, I was taught that I was never good enough. So, encouragement is not familiar territory. I learnt to protect by criticizing. Something you would never thought of when you think of me.

Today, I celebrate the smallest accomplishments. I chose a different path.

I high-fived my son for helping me clean the coffee table this morning. He was such an awesome helper.

Posted by Loreena and Michael Yeo, Real Estate Agents (3:16 team REALTY ~ Locally-owned Frisco TX Real Estate Co.) about 8 years ago

Sally - Love the sentiment expressed here. We all have such a short time on this planet and so far as we know we won't be back this way again.  How do we want to spend the time we have? Building up? Or knocking down? Thanks for sharing, sister. You rock. Peace.

Posted by Coleen DeGroff, Haile Plantation Real Estate - Gainesville FL (eXp Realty) about 8 years ago

Very nice Sally! Great words for not so great times! I hope you are doing well.

Posted by Greg Nino, Houston, Texas (RE/MAX Compass, formerly RE/MAX WHP) about 8 years ago

Perfect words to live by. Every little gesture backed by good intention makes such a differencefor the giver as well as the receiver!.. Thanks for the post, Sally!

Posted by Barbara Chatterton, Greater Madison Wisconsin Area Realtor (The Stark Company Realtors, Madison WI) about 8 years ago

Hi Sally - this is so important!  And we needn't wait for some big reason to show compassion or to brighten someone's day.  When you see someone who is not smiling, look for something to compliment them about. 

Simply saying that you like someone's shirt or that their hair looks really nice today or whatever as long as it is genuine and something that really merits a comment, will bring a smile immediately.  And that person may walk a little taller the rest of the day.  It is easy, I do it daily, and I'm sure it is something that comes naturally to you, Sally.

Posted by Susan Neal, Fair Oaks CA & Sacramento Area Real Estate Broker (RE/MAX Gold, Fair Oaks) about 8 years ago

Sally it is amazing how just a few simple words can make or break somebody's day. It doesn't take much to show genuine care and concern - and it goes a long long way in creating good relationships. This is a lovely post for everyday -especially Sunday.  Thanks!

 

Posted by Anna Banana Kruchten CRB, CRS 602-380-4886, Arizona's Top Banana! (Phoenix Property Shoppe) about 8 years ago

Sally - Words to live by for sure... Thanks for this post and a good reminder to do something positive today...

Posted by Robert and Lisa Hammerstein -201-315-8618, Bergen County NJ Real Estate (Keller Williams Valley Realty) about 8 years ago

I love a little positive in my day...don't you?

Posted by Celeste "SALLY" Cheeseman, (RA) AHWD CRS ePRO OAHU HAWAII REAL ESTATE (Liberty Homes) about 8 years ago

Sally, 

Yes, love a lot of positive.  It rarely costs anything to be nice and it goes a lot farther than the grumpy unhappy attitude every time.  

Great advice, you go girl.

All the best, Michelle

Posted by Michelle Francis, Realtor, Buckhead Atlanta Homes for Sale & Lease (Tim Francis Realty LLC) about 8 years ago

Great Post, Sally and so very true, it does only take a gesture to sow someone you care and it means so much! 

Posted by Christine OShea (Christine E O'Shea Real Estate Broker) about 8 years ago

It's those "little things" that really show people how much they are valued. Thanks for sharing!

Posted by Jason Channell, The House Sleuth (Diadem Property Inspections - Serving Southeast Michigan) about 8 years ago

WE all need positive encouragement in the time we are in.

Posted by Jerry Morse, BBA,GRI (The Morse Company) about 8 years ago

Positive thoughts and attitudes can only make things better and nicer. Thanks for the encouragement.

Posted by Phil Cogan (Coldwell Banker Residential Real Estate) about 8 years ago

Sally,

You are so right.  And we never know how important that positive word, nod, or just a smile is to someone.. We should be giving out positive affirmation all day long.

I try.

Thanks!

Posted by 1 ~Judi & Don Barrett & Chassy Eastep - Integrity, BS Ed, Integrity Real Estate Services -IDABEL OK (Integrity Real Estate Services 118 SE AVE N, Idabel, OK 74745) about 8 years ago

Sally some times it is the little things that mean the most, at least that is what I have found in my life.

Posted by George Souto, Your Connecticut Mortgage Expert (George Souto NMLS #65149 FHA, CHFA, VA Mortgages) about 8 years ago

Thank you for sharing such a positive attitude.  I agree that the littlest things, when they are pointed out, become the best things.  I think that it is wonderful to be able to support people for the littlest accomplishments.  We learn this as children and I think that we need to keep that quality going.  Your are absolutely right about it changing your business and your attitude towards everything in your life.  Keep smiling!  Karen

Posted by Karen Feltman, Relocation Specialist in Cedar Rapids, Iowa (Cedar Rapids/Iowa City, IA KW Legacy Group) about 8 years ago

These gestures will certainly brighten up my day. I need to start practicing in giving some of these blessings.

Posted by Eileen Hsu, LICENSED REAL ESTATE SALESPERSON (Douglas Elliman Real Estate) about 8 years ago

Ya know there are people in this world that are givers and then there are the takers.  A good world would be if everyone had some balance.....but unfortunetly that's not always the case.

Giving when you don't think you can is the true measure of someones character...

One thing I learned a long time ago...no matter how rough we think we have it, someone else has it worse!  And life is never just about "me"....

Posted by Kathy McGraw, Riverside County CA Real Estate (CELLing Realty) about 8 years ago

Sally - If there were no other reason for you to be an Active Rain Ambassador your giving and supporting nature is enough for me. ..... it shines through

Posted by Kathy Clulow, Trusted For Experience - Respected For Results (RE/MAX All-Stars Realty Inc. Brokerage) about 8 years ago

Hi Sally -- Your post is very timely.  I just had a transaction that closed, and I told the other agent I thought she was the nicest, warmest, sincerest, genuineness and competent agents I have worked with.  She said that was the nicest thing anyone has ever said to her in real estate in 25 years.  While I was thrilled that those simple yet honest words gave her positive feelings, I was also saddened that perhaps this business called real estate has perhaps lost some agent-to-agent compassion that could be restored and yet still do our jobs as competitors.  I know I'm not perfect, but the older I get, the more kind I try to become.

Posted by Chris Olsen, Broker Owner Cleveland Ohio Real Estate (Olsen Ziegler Realty) about 8 years ago

Chris: It's really nice to do a kind gesture of acknowledgement....and also to receive one as well. It's an appreciation for being kind human beings. :)

Kathy: You're so sweet Kathy....then again...it's members as you who give a kind word to support others as well!

Posted by Celeste "SALLY" Cheeseman, (RA) AHWD CRS ePRO OAHU HAWAII REAL ESTATE (Liberty Homes) about 8 years ago

Kathy: I agree...givers and takers. Mutual appreciation and gratitude would be nice....even a small gesture.  Character and reputation are what I believe we all hold dear in this life....regardless of business or the emotions some tend to hold back.....it's just the right thing to do....ya know?

Elaine: It's blessings as these that make the world go round :)

Karen: It's the thinking that drives behavior....and our attitudes towwards certain beliefs are what allow us to open our minds and give back.

 

Posted by Celeste "SALLY" Cheeseman, (RA) AHWD CRS ePRO OAHU HAWAII REAL ESTATE (Liberty Homes) about 8 years ago

George: And it's the little things...like your never ending support to others is what brings a smile to my face today :)

Judi:  You don't just try...you do! :)

Phil: It's what we all strive for...a better tomorrow!

Jerry: And that's why we give it too :)

Christina: It sure does...:)

Michelle: Positive takes work....negative breeds an ugly head :)

Posted by Celeste "SALLY" Cheeseman, (RA) AHWD CRS ePRO OAHU HAWAII REAL ESTATE (Liberty Homes) about 8 years ago

Lisa/Rob: WooHoo!

Anna: it sure is...and i know because I see what it does for others and how it actually makes me feel...when i've been a part of it :)

Jason: Even my poochie shows her appreciation when I tell her I love her :)

Susan: I really hate to ignore those I see that may need a helping hand. I ask if there's something I can do to help...or wassup? Something, anything to reach out.

Barbara: That's a good point...the intention. We do so with giving from the heart...not with the intent to get something back!

Greg: It's all in the manner of how you handle it :)

 

Posted by Celeste "SALLY" Cheeseman, (RA) AHWD CRS ePRO OAHU HAWAII REAL ESTATE (Liberty Homes) about 8 years ago

Colleen: It's the legacy we choose to leave behind...regardless if online or face to face :)

Loreena: Believe it or not...I had big walls and for the same reasons. Sometimes it's the ethnicity of our bringing up....but as you...I chose to change it around.. You're doing good with the little one...my 28/29 year old children are wonderful people!

Posted by Celeste "SALLY" Cheeseman, (RA) AHWD CRS ePRO OAHU HAWAII REAL ESTATE (Liberty Homes) about 8 years ago

Sally...

I learned a long time ago that life is about propel and relationships and not about money. So I always look at helping others as contributing to the quality of MY life!

Posted by Richard Weisser, Richard Weisser Retired Real Estate Professional (Richard Weisser Realty) about 8 years ago

Sally, everyone needs a little encouragement. Thanks for the positive post today.

Posted by Michael Setunsky, Your Commercial Real Estate Link to Northern VA about 8 years ago

Sally... this is so true and has been needed a lot more for many people in recent months.  And as you mentioned, not only does it not take much of an effort, but that it can go a long way.  And another thing, it can catch on with others also.. kindness can travel.  Great post..

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Posted by Jeff Belonger, The FHA Expert - FHA Loans - FHA mortgages - USDA loans - VA Loans ( Social Media - Infinity Home Mortgage Company, Inc) about 8 years ago

Great post, Sally.  This should just be a no brainer in life, but somehow we need to keep hearing over and over again that nurturing and caring for others, really gives back to ourselves in the long haul!

Posted by Real Estate Virtual Assistant & Agent, Proud to Serve Your Real Estate Needs (Christine Wade) about 8 years ago

How right you are my friend and it just takes a little effort! Hope you rare doing well!

Posted by Russell Lewis, Broker,CLHMS,GRI (Realty Austin, Austin Texas Real Estate) about 8 years ago

Well said! It takes so little and can mean so much!!! Have a wonderful week Sally!

Posted by Barbara-Jo Roberts Berberi, MA, PSA, TRC - Greater Clearwater Florida Residential Real Estate Professional, Palm Harbor, Dunedin, Clearwater, Safety Harbor (Charles Rutenberg Realty) about 8 years ago

great post

true true

it doesn't take much to do something with a little thought a little kindness that can reverberate far into the future...

thanks

Posted by Vince McEveety (Gilleran Griffin Realty) about 8 years ago

I once heard someone say that it's nice to be nice - and from that day I adopted that saying for my own.  I appreciated your post and wish you the very best!

Posted by Shellie Alicia Carter (REAL. | Realtyka, LLC) about 8 years ago

Sally, TLW and I have been on the receiving end of your kindness many times. It always feels great!!! Thank you!!

Posted by Bryant Tutas, Selling Florida one home at a time (Tutas Towne Realty, Inc and Garden Views Realty, LLC) about 8 years ago

Hi Sally - you are so right, and a little support. It is awesome to receive support from family and friends.

Posted by Sharon Paxson, Newport Beach Real Estate (Compass) about 8 years ago

Sally

Consider me in compliance with your post and accept my comment as proof.....thank you

Posted by Richie Alan Naggar, agent & author (people first...then business Ran Right Realty ) about 8 years ago

Sally,

I love this line:

It's the quality of the relationship we have within ourselves that will determine if we have the capability to have lasting meaningful relationships with others.

That is so true. 

It is what we have within ourselves that determines how we feel about others, not who they are, but who we are.

Posted by 1 ~Judi & Don Barrett & Chassy Eastep - Integrity, BS Ed, Integrity Real Estate Services -IDABEL OK (Integrity Real Estate Services 118 SE AVE N, Idabel, OK 74745) about 8 years ago

Absolutely Sally, if we feel good or are happy, you have to share it! It really is the little things that mean SO much. We all can be a little nicer. Just look at the faces around you as you drive the streets, everyone is so stressed or frowning. Give a little smile, change someones day! 

Posted by Al & Peggy Cunningham, Brokers, Our Family Wants To Help Your Family! (RE/MAX West Realty Inc., Brokerage) about 8 years ago

Such a wonderful message, Sally.  I love reading the comments here, too.  Last week a long time friend wanted to pay for my lunch.  I was so taken aback that someone wanted to 'treat me.'  I still have warm fuzzies floating around.

Posted by Mary Yonkers, Erie/PA Real Estate Instructor (Alan Kells School of Real Estate/Howard Hanna Real Estate) about 8 years ago

Such a wonderful message, Sally.  I love reading the comments here, too.  Last week a long time friend wanted to pay for my lunch.  I was so taken aback that someone wanted to 'treat me.'  I still have warm fuzzies floating around.

Posted by Mary Yonkers, Erie/PA Real Estate Instructor (Alan Kells School of Real Estate/Howard Hanna Real Estate) about 8 years ago

Mary.....that's sweet and I bet greatly appreciated!  Look forward to meeting you soon!

Posted by Celeste "SALLY" Cheeseman, (RA) AHWD CRS ePRO OAHU HAWAII REAL ESTATE (Liberty Homes) about 8 years ago

Or the birthday card, or the anniversary card, or the wedding card.... There are so many little things that one can do that can mean so much to the other person. It's the thought that counts!

Posted by Not a real person about 8 years ago

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