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What Really Matters......In This Life?

We live, we die and it's what we do in between that matters. After watching the previews for the new movie "The Bucket List" and after reading Linda Scanlan's post about it, we made it a point to go see this wonderful movie today. Now, all of you that know me know that I believe that success lies within. No matter what, material possessions and money is NOT the foundation for a happy and successful life for me.

 With grace and a zest for living the "rest" of their lives to the fullest, two older men Edward Cole, a hospital corporation head (Jack Nicholson) and Carter Chamber, an auto mechanic (Morgan Freeman) find out they have cancer (and coincidentally meet in the same hospital room) and are told they both have only a few months to live. They decide to make a "bucket list" or rather, a list of things they want to do before they die and with the money of Edward and Carter leaving his family for a little while they head off into an adventurous around the world trip.

Carter realizes that all this didn't mean a thing like his family did. He went home and he ended up dying on the operating table and Edward's cancer went into remission and he died at the age of 81. They both were cremated and they both laid in tin cans and set next to each other at the top of a mountain in the Himalayas. Edward realized (at the time of Carter's death) that the only family he had (a daughter he had not spoken to for years) was important and was going to be his reason for living life to the fulllest. He reunites with his daughter and one of the things on his list "kiss the most beautiful girl in the world" was granted. He kissed his grand daughter.

I laughed and chuckled through the whole movie and cried in the end. Literally, a tear jerker but so real life were the scenarios that it made for a really great movie and also an eye opener for the things I believe in and strive to hold close so my heart does not falter. Okay, now that I gave you a brief synopsis, let me tell you how it relates to REAL LIFE. Or rather, MY life.

  • Balance is key to success. If I have a healthy sense of self and keep balance in all aspects of my life....then success follows.
  • Success for me means a healthy, happy and simple life that I am proud of.  
  • Nothing is more precious than my family and the love and closeness we share.
  • No amount of money can buy happiness.
  • No amount of fame 'makes' me a person.
  • My real estate business is based on the time I give it and the time I allow it to "run my life".
  • At half a century, I value the time I have to enjoy my days from morning to night.
  • Real Estate is enjoyable as long as I don't MAKE it ONLY a job. I care about the people I work with and represent.
  • And the list can go on......

I am going to make a "bucket list" of the things I want to do for the rest of my life........How about you?  Join the Positive Attitude for the Weary Soul Group and plop your positive bucket lists in it!

** Watch  "The Bucket List" trailer **

                                                                   

Comments

It is great to have a plan, a bucket list, or just something to shoot for, I find that sometimes the less activity we apply the more movement we get, best wishes for your life!  ktm
Posted by Prudential California Realty/Gem Mortgage over 2 years ago
I think I will start on my "bucket list" -- I had read and heard some very negative reviews of this movie -- now I am going to check it out.  Thanks Sally.
Posted by Joan Whitebook, ABR,e-Pro,CEBA Southern New Hampshire (Buyer's Option Realty Services) over 2 years ago
Ah....and so the reason this movie struck a cord with me...no matter how much money the one guy had....in the end he lived longer and finally found the true meaning to living his life to the fullest...and it included family....which he thought he didn't need :) Thanks for coming by Kirk!
Posted by Celeste "SALLY" Cheeseman HAWAII Relocations & Real Estate (Century 21 Liberty Homes) over 2 years ago
Joan: No negatives for me!  Wonderful learning lessons and brush ups on the positives in life. Watch the trailer...it's only a peek but both of those two actors surely made the movie!
Posted by Celeste "SALLY" Cheeseman HAWAII Relocations & Real Estate (Century 21 Liberty Homes) over 2 years ago
Sally, excellent post, family will (in most cases) always be there through thick and thin.
Posted by * Rate A Home (Rate A Home) over 2 years ago

I haven't seen the "Bucket List" movie yet. But I plan to. I did see the "Ultimate Gift" which I don't think many saw. It was a great movie too with a similar moral story. Life is not about us it is about what we give to others.

Jerry Schmidt

Sunview Inspections Inc, Austin, Texas 

Posted by Jerry Schmidt (Sunview Inspections Inc.) over 2 years ago

Sally,

I like your 'bucket list' translation into 'your own life' list...balance is what everyone keeps preaching...and it has been preached for 2000 years now...apparently many don't get it...moderation in all things good! Thanks,   Fran

Posted by Fran 'The Title Man' Gaspari Title Insurance-PA & NJ (Patriot Land Transfer, Inc.) over 2 years ago

Duane: Family is where happiness grows :)

Jerry: I haven't seen that Ultimate Gift ...we usually just go to blockbuster but this one I didn't want to wait for. It just looked like something that wasn't blood and guts and gore and weird stuff....so most likely something I wouldn't mind paying the money for haha.  In any case, this one was enjoyable....and life is what I make it....and I choose to give what I can.

Posted by Celeste "SALLY" Cheeseman HAWAII Relocations & Real Estate (Century 21 Liberty Homes) over 2 years ago

Fran: Yup...you are right on target ...but of course you understand the gift of life :) Thanks Fran!

Posted by Celeste "SALLY" Cheeseman HAWAII Relocations & Real Estate (Century 21 Liberty Homes) over 2 years ago
Great post Sally.  It truly is about what we feel and believe inside, not what we own.  Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this oh-so-important topic!
Posted by Ryan Hukill - Edmond Realtor® (Hukill Group - Paradigm AdvantEdge Real Estate) over 2 years ago
Ryan: Thanks so much Ryan...it sure is an important topic. Not everyone may agree...that's okay. What's important is what I believe. :)
Posted by Celeste "SALLY" Cheeseman HAWAII Relocations & Real Estate (Century 21 Liberty Homes) over 2 years ago

I love your focus, Sally!  Great new picture on your profile too.

Mike in Tucson

Posted by Mike Jones (SUNSTREET MORTGAGE, LLC) over 2 years ago
I loved your post today too! We must be focusing today lol!
Posted by Celeste "SALLY" Cheeseman HAWAII Relocations & Real Estate (Century 21 Liberty Homes) over 2 years ago
Sally, This is a wonderful review and how it relates to our own lives.  I do have a list of things I would like to do and places to see but in the end, my family matters more to me than anything.  And it's something very much that I try to instill in my children so they always stay close.  Thank you for some wise words and wisdom.
Posted by Carole Provenzale Owner, Feng Shui Long Island & New York (Feng Shui Long Island & New York City) over 2 years ago
Carole: I love watching inspirational movies....not many out there nowadays. :)  It was also entertaining lol!  I think everyone would benefit to see their bucket lists on paper. :) Believe me...I get inspiration with wise words from you too!  P.S.  you know the list in the picture has a couple of actual things from me in it.  The first one is to go see my dad's crematorium place (I think that's what you call it) but it's in Washington and that means plane trip. I haven't been on a plane for awhile :)
Posted by Celeste "SALLY" Cheeseman HAWAII Relocations & Real Estate (Century 21 Liberty Homes) over 2 years ago

As we get older in life we seem to rectify our past by giving more of ourselves and being of service to humankind. It is too bad we just don't understand this simple fact of balance in one's life when we are 20 or 30, etc. The world would be a kinder place.  Thanks for the nice post..like the new photo also.

Posted by Kim Harris-Broker/Owner/Sound Realty (Sound Realty) over 2 years ago
kim: Now that is a fact. In my younger years I only cared about material things.... as time went on my life made more sense when there was balance...and not the need for more and more and more. I say...be happy with what I have....be grateful. Helping others became draining so had to find a different avenue. I love RE. :) It gives me time for me. :)
Posted by Celeste "SALLY" Cheeseman HAWAII Relocations & Real Estate (Century 21 Liberty Homes) over 2 years ago
Sally - I use to work for Rick Deluca -he is a real estate seminar speaker - anyway one of the things he teaches is to write a bucket list and use them as goals for your Real Estate career -
Posted by Central Oregon Real Estate | Broker Thesa Chambers, Licensed in Oregon (RE/MAX Sunset Realty) over 2 years ago

Sally,  This was really a great show.  Not sure if reality would intrude when these guys were so sick and keep them bedridden, but the story touched a nerve on both my wife and I.   Thanks for the reminder.  Hard to keep in mind that we are here for such a short time -- with so many IMPORTANT things to be done.  

By the way, nice frame on your photo!   See you at the Active Rain gathering in Honolulu.   Thanks for setting it up.   Jerry

Posted by RE/MAX Kai Lani over 2 years ago
Sally- You are so right balance is the key to having the best from life..
Posted by Manhattan Beach CA/ e-PRO..... Kaye Thomas... (Real Estate West) over 2 years ago
Sally -- very good post and excellent points about reality -- the life that we live!
Posted by Aziz Abdur-Raoof,Howard Co. Real Estate Scoop (RE/MAX Rewards) over 2 years ago

Why are people telling me to see that movie the Bucket list? Are they giving me a hint?:) I'm not that old yet.

Posted by Neal Bloom-Realtor ® Assoc.-CRS-Weston FL (Keller Williams Properties) over 2 years ago

Sally,

I haven't seen that movie yet. It is amazing as we grow older how we change our priorities(if we are normal).

Posted by Mike Frazier, Dyersburg Tn Real Estate (Carousel Realty of Dyer County) over 2 years ago
Sally, I was too tired when I got back from a party last night to comment, but as you know I sent you my "Bucket List" as well as my other list "100+ Interesting, Exciting, and Fun Things You Didn't Know about Brian" -- the second list is a repository for those things from the Bucket List which have already been accomplished.  Some of my most enjoyable moments are when I look back on a month or a year and transfer things from the first list to the second.
Posted by Brian Block -- Northern Virginia & D.C. Real Estate (RE/MAX Allegiance) over 2 years ago
Sally, nice post. I better go see this movie. I have been in the mood for a movie. I did a similar list from another source of inspiration, but I love doing motivational and inspirational things and so I think I will give it a try from this perspective. Always fun to come for a read at your place.
Posted by Jeanean Gendron ~ Redding & Shasta County Specialist (Coldwell Banker C & C) over 2 years ago
Sally, Now I must see the movie.  Making a Bucket List sounds like fun.
Posted by Dan Forbes over 2 years ago
Sally - The Bucket List is on my short list. Thanks for sharing the message you took away from it.
Posted by Tom Plant (WINEormous.com) over 2 years ago
Good morning Sally! The Bucket List is on my movie list to see. I plan to take my Mom....maybe next week. I need to get my own list started. I rarely have a plan because I like my day or my life to just unfold. To plan for a client with real estate showings is about the only list I have! lol 
Posted by Lizette Fitzpatrick - Broker-Realtor® Kentucky Homes - Horse Farms (Lizette Realty - Lexington KY - Richmond KY) over 2 years ago

Sally, Just saw the movie and was deeply moved. It was a joy seeing Jack Nicholson and Morgan Freeman together as they too grow older. May they both receive the same meaning form the movie as we did. Sometimes people preach something and live the opposite. Thanks for the post.

Posted by Nicholas Goglucci, PA. South Florida Real Estate (RE/Max ParkCreek) over 2 years ago
Once again EXCELLENT post ! I will start on my bucket list !
Posted by Melissa Grant - Real Estate Coordinator Offering Virtual or On - Site Services (Virtual Office Systems) over 2 years ago

Thesa: And my bucket list is for life. I guess because my work is only one third of my life. :) (the other third is sleep and the other third is broken up into family, friends, blogging lol)

 

Posted by Celeste "SALLY" Cheeseman HAWAII Relocations & Real Estate (Century 21 Liberty Homes) over 2 years ago
Hey Jerry!  The thing that touched me the most was that both of them realized what was most important in their lives. Family. :)  Look forward to meeting you and your wife!
Posted by Celeste "SALLY" Cheeseman HAWAII Relocations & Real Estate (Century 21 Liberty Homes) over 2 years ago

Kaye: And that's all that matters when it comes to having success for me. Thanks Kaye.

Aziz: Thanks for your input and stopping by!

Posted by Celeste "SALLY" Cheeseman HAWAII Relocations & Real Estate (Century 21 Liberty Homes) over 2 years ago
Sally, so true on happiness growing out of the family. When things get tough, the family seems to be the best backers.
Posted by * Rate A Home (Rate A Home) over 2 years ago

Neal:  It's not about getting 'old'. It's about 'anything can happen at any time' and doing the things that are important for us to do in this lifetime. But...you are getting there lol!

Posted by Celeste "SALLY" Cheeseman HAWAII Relocations & Real Estate (Century 21 Liberty Homes) over 2 years ago
Mike: And just what is 'normal' ???  lol!  I know I didn't grow up for awhile :)  But I know what you mean....I'm not the rebel, tyrant I used to be :)
Posted by Celeste "SALLY" Cheeseman HAWAII Relocations & Real Estate (Century 21 Liberty Homes) over 2 years ago
Brian: I loved your bucket list! I suppose the thinks I have done would really fill up twice as many pages (I got some years and traveling too :)  It was nice to see all the things you have done and want to do. So far...you are 'worldly' to say the least. Go see the movie...it'll change your perspective even more :)
Posted by Celeste "SALLY" Cheeseman HAWAII Relocations & Real Estate (Century 21 Liberty Homes) over 2 years ago
Jeanean: You would love this movie! There were middle aged people in the movie theater but you know what? I'm not into bee bop kiddie movies. Not into blood, gore B rated movies. A good drama and regular child movies with learning lessons I love. :)  I like movies with 'meaning' and this was one of them :)
Posted by Celeste "SALLY" Cheeseman HAWAII Relocations & Real Estate (Century 21 Liberty Homes) over 2 years ago

Dan: This would definitely be an inspirational AND motivational piece for you!  In the end I cried...the movie was heartbreaking but so profound in the learning lessons of life as well as the important things that really make a difference.

 

Posted by Celeste "SALLY" Cheeseman HAWAII Relocations & Real Estate (Century 21 Liberty Homes) over 2 years ago

Tom: Not sure if I get what you mean...but hope it's all good :)

Lizette:  That's why I really couldn't do one ...yet. Don't know if I will. I've done so much in my life...plans....jobs....traveling....and just love my home life now. It was a long time coming and glad I have found my priorities and balance ...so to speak :)

Posted by Celeste "SALLY" Cheeseman HAWAII Relocations & Real Estate (Century 21 Liberty Homes) over 2 years ago

Hi Sally,

As soon as I saw the coming attractions for that movie, I knew it would be one I planned on seeing.  I love the actors and their committment to their craft.  The concept of the story was obviously going to make this one worth seeing too.  Love your list and totally agree with all points.  Especially the "no amount of fame makes me a person" point.  I love it but family has always been at the tippy top of my list too.  Will give this list some thought and definitely will see the movie.

 

Best,

Lisa

Posted by Pascack Valley Real Estate, Lisa and Robert Hammerstein (Coldwell Banker) over 2 years ago

Nicholas: Well, sometimes movies are what they are....a movie. It's up to me to get what I can...or won't ...out of it. The important thing for me here is it validated what I believe....who cares about "them". I'm glad you enjoyed the movie and got out of it what I seem to have.

Posted by Celeste "SALLY" Cheeseman HAWAII Relocations & Real Estate (Century 21 Liberty Homes) over 2 years ago
We saw the movie on-line about 2 weeks ago! It was great! There are so many things in life that thought I would have accomplished and experienced by now... I best get started!!!
Posted by Aventura | Bal Harbour | Sunny Isles Beach | REALTOR® 786-229-7999 (SIB REALTY, Llc // WaterWayRealty.com) over 2 years ago
Sally--We saw The Bucket List last weekend and it does make you think about what is important in life. Yesterday we saw Cloverfield...A totally different spectrum of movie. :)
Posted by Teri Eckholm, REALTOR® Anoka County Acreage & Lakeshore Homes (REMAX Specialists) over 2 years ago

Wow, I love Morgan Freeman, so now I will make it a point to go see that movie.  In fact, I will go with my husband who has been asking me to go to the movies with him all weekend and I have been busy.  I will make time today to do that with him.  I love spending time with my children and grandchildren.  All the rest of my family is in Iowa so I go there as often as I can. 

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Posted by Sandy Clemons (Coldwell Banker Stucky & Associates) over 2 years ago

Melissa: Cool! Look forward to seeing yours!

Duane: Family usually stand by us if we are good people too.

Lisa: So true, huh?  I have seen how money ruins people...and when they fall...gee, who's around to pick them up? In this movie....they both reunited with family...I cried and sniffled through the whole end...and my husband kept patting me on the leg...lol!

Posted by Celeste "SALLY" Cheeseman HAWAII Relocations & Real Estate (Century 21 Liberty Homes) over 2 years ago

Mott: Cool! I believe I have done some....just a couple things I really need to do. My dad's ashes are an hour from Tacoma, Washington and I really need to go there. Another is going back to Europe and seeing more ruins and stuff.

Teri: You think I'd like that one?  I sure love movies...we don't usually go to the theater so we can put the movie on pause but I didn't want to wait for the bucket list to go to blockbuster. lol!

Sandy: Go!  Make time! And hug those children and grandchildren all you can!

Posted by Celeste "SALLY" Cheeseman HAWAII Relocations & Real Estate (Century 21 Liberty Homes) over 2 years ago
My sister, who has had cancer, and her daughter in law's father died of cancer of the brain, said this was without a doubt the most disgusting movie she has ever seen and she was angry when she left of the misleading way it is advertised. Also, the only thing good about it was them being reunited with their families. I will pass thanks.
Posted by B Lucas-Thrower (Staging - Interior Redesign & Home Staging) over 2 years ago

B: My father died of lung cancer in 2004 and my brother did not reunite with him before he died. He was disgusting and only called to ask if my father left him anything.  I try to look at the positive side of things and it wasn't just the reuniting of families.  Some people believe money is more important....and that fame is more important. The most profound thing for me was that my dad and I have had our differences throughout the years...but the last ten years I spent with him were the most enjoyable.....even though the last time we were together was in 1997. The advertising was like the movie in my opinion....but then again...all of our opinions are just that...opinions. The whole idea of this post wasn't to glorify the movie so much as thinking about what is important to us in our lives.

Posted by Celeste "SALLY" Cheeseman HAWAII Relocations & Real Estate (Century 21 Liberty Homes) over 2 years ago
Well you sold me, I have to go see it.  You are so right- life is what we make it.  Money and material things don't matter in the end if you don't have family.  We have to nurture our families and friends like we do our business!
Posted by Ginger Wilcox, Marin County Realtor (Alain Pinel, Marin Real Estate) over 2 years ago
I can't pass this up.  My wife Sam is a cancer surviver and her mother died of cancer.  As I noted earlier, the movie made the ordeal of cancer much easier than it is in actuality.  Nevertheless, Sam and I both felt that the over riding message of not succumbing to the illness insofar as possible and getting on with life, is a valid message lost on many. Jerry 
Posted by RE/MAX Kai Lani over 2 years ago
Wow, after reading your review, I'm definately going to see this movie. Actually your review was more interesting than the TV promotions. Of course I was going to go just because I love Morgan Friedman. Why, is it as much as we are told over and over again, we don't seem to get it that family is the most important. Ok, I'll work on a list, use to have one, but lost it. LOL
Posted by Missy Caulk-Ann Arbor- Realtor(R)- Ann Arbor Real Estate (Keller Williams-Ann Arbor) over 2 years ago

Ginger: Great!  Knowing you ..you'll think as I did....it's the learning lessons and hug the little ones for me!

Jerry: That's okay though. I didn't want to see the horrible truth...and relive memories of my dad gasping for air. Nope. I'd rather take the learning lesson ...that I brought with me. I will cherish the time I do have...not what I lost. My dad told me this a couple of weeks before he died..."Sal, no matter what...your life has to go on". He knew me well. I would grieve hard. But with these words....I had it ingrained and went back to work three days after.

Missy: I have a feeling yours DOES have family. You are always writing about them and I can see it through the words :)

Posted by Celeste "SALLY" Cheeseman HAWAII Relocations & Real Estate (Century 21 Liberty Homes) over 2 years ago

Hi Sally,

You certainly have things into perspective, family, friends,being happy and healthy!  Perhaps, I can get hubby to take me to the movies.....:)

Posted by Suzanne Sands-Somerset, MA Real Estate (Century 21 Associates Realty) over 2 years ago
Suzanne: WooHoo! Go to the movies...if anything...family time!
Posted by Celeste "SALLY" Cheeseman HAWAII Relocations & Real Estate (Century 21 Liberty Homes) over 2 years ago
Nice post. Sounds like an interesting movie that makes its point well. I am not sure I could see it....I am a sensitive sort and, well...men don't cry!
Posted by Gary Waters -Real estate agent Viera Suntree Melbourne and Rockledge FL (Bucci Realty www.moving2brevard.com) over 2 years ago
Gary: Too funny....I was busy crying and didn't look at my husband....wonder if he was lol!
Posted by Celeste "SALLY" Cheeseman HAWAII Relocations & Real Estate (Century 21 Liberty Homes) over 2 years ago
Sally, I have always felt that the only truly important reason for me to exist is how I touch other people's lives.  The rest of the things I put on a Bucket List would make me happy, but never as happy as hugging my daughter or hearing my husband's wonderful laugh!
Posted by Lake Norman Real Estate ~ Diane Aurit (LKN Realty, LLC) over 2 years ago
Diane!  Me toooo!  Yeah, we need to make a living...but I don't care about more...and more...and look at me I make millions...and all that. It's all about the client's who appreciated the care I gave them. In fact, got my first AR closing this Thursday and going to meet her at the unit so she can measure and meet with the handyman. She is sooo excited. Anyway, I got to see a warm movie and definitely knew it would be worth paying for :)
Posted by Celeste "SALLY" Cheeseman HAWAII Relocations & Real Estate (Century 21 Liberty Homes) over 2 years ago
Great blog and I look forward to seeing the movie.  We certainly need it just like we need positive comments like your post and your group.  Sally thanks for all you do!!
Posted by Karen Moorhead Ann Arbor Area Real Estate (Keller Williams Realty) over 2 years ago

Great Post!  To those of you who haven't seen the movie, don't make the mistake I almost made.  I read the critics reviews and decided this movie was not worthwhile based on that.  Fortunately, I went a step further and read some reviews from real people.

The movie was great, had a message, and was entertaining.

Posted by Pete Mesaros over 2 years ago

Karen: Great! It was an enjoyable movie.....usually there's a bunch of teenie bopper movies out there. I'm not going to waste my money on those ;)

Pete: Thanks for popping by Pete. It really doesn't pay to go by "here say". Just as in real life...I don't base my opinion by others opinions. It has to come from me. Messages from others are not clear and I'm not a follower :) I get facts firsthand...my hand :)

So, if you all don't want to go by my opinion...go see it for yourself and let me know what learning lesson you got out of it :)

Posted by Celeste "SALLY" Cheeseman HAWAII Relocations & Real Estate (Century 21 Liberty Homes) over 2 years ago
Now I know I am going to see this movie and begin my bucket list.  I love my job as a REALTOR but there are times when I forget the balance. 
Posted by Katie Landon over 2 years ago
It was an excellent movie of which the wife and I went to see Saturday. Life is short and we should enjoy life while we are young. If life only started from retirement age and worked in the opposite direction. Two other great movies, at least in my opinion are, " American Gangster" and and definitely "The Debaters."
Posted by Richard Pino (RE/Max Advantage Real Estate) over 2 years ago

Katie: Ha!  Now that's the spirit!  My older years are going to be golden :)

Richard: Oh,.....yes it is! I'll check those out as you suggested.

Posted by Celeste "SALLY" Cheeseman HAWAII Relocations & Real Estate (Century 21 Liberty Homes) over 2 years ago
Sally,  As you say it is all about balance in our life and how we do such.  A positive attitude begets positive influences and a positive aura about ourselves.  The same it true for the other.  It's the choice that people make which determines which way and where they are going. 
Posted by Marc Grossman, GRI - Greater Orlando Real Estate Broker (Marc It Sold!) over 2 years ago

Hi Sally, Woo Hoo!

No doubt that you picked up a few ideas for blogging when you saw this movie, voila, you did in fact write and shared not only the synopsis but put the lessons in the perspective of your own life. I would have expected nothing less.

I am looking forward to seeing this movie next weekend and I shall think of you and be thinking of my own bucket list. We will have to compare notes.

Now, I was looking at the calendar and very soon many from the mainland will be descending on you. I can only imagine that you will be sparkling, greeting and hugging so many that you know only through their writing. I know your impressions will be in blogs along with photos  of all the fun you are having. 

Wonderful!

 

 

Posted by San Diego Real Estate Voice authored by William Johnson GRI CRS e-Pro CDPE (RE/MAX Associates) over 2 years ago

Marc: Sure is.... and boy do we have a choice!

William: Oh....I knew I would before I went to see it LOL!  How much of my bucket can I fill in just this one lifetime? Who knows. I do not have a whole bunch...yet. Just main ones I really need to do. And I presume it will be this or next year for the trip to Washington to dad's place of rest (ashes)

You just don't know how excited I am....that the time is nearing to hug everyone. (Randy says I'm too girlie lol) One thing about you and I William....it's pretty deep when we talk on the phone....when the day comes that I will meet you face to face I will surely sob....for finally meeting one of my dearest friends.

 

Posted by Celeste "SALLY" Cheeseman HAWAII Relocations & Real Estate (Century 21 Liberty Homes) over 2 years ago

Sally- We are planning on seeing the movie too. I love inspirational movies. I love to be grateful for all my blessings and appreciate all that I have in life and yes, family is the most important thing and our relationships with others and how we help make the world a better place.

But I find that the movies tend to make some of my clients feel guilty because without money they can not get the operations they would need, without money they would not be able to help all the people that they can help with money.

People tend to say that money is not important , while the money itself is not important, what we do with the money is important. It is an energy form that can be used for good or evil. I have been dirt poor and I have been rich and I always say that in my life Rich is always better. People need to take the movie in the spirit of the movie not the literal sense because they do not tell all there is to a story. 

My hope is that people will see that what is important is spending time with their families but also working to reach the levels of success to be able to live the free life they desire to live. When you have money you can spend time with your family and still pay the bills, you can give your kids piano lessons, karate lessons and college educations. These all cost money and someone has to earn that money.

Congrats on your feature! You are doing great and again, the photo of you is so very beautiful, its a keeper! Katerina 

Posted by Nestor & Katerina Gasset Realtors® Wellington Florida Luxury Homes (International Properties and Investments, Inc.) over 2 years ago

Katerina: Money does not buy everything (like the man in the movie) and the only one who can tell a story is the one who's life we're talking about. My life is different from yours. I live in a small house and have little to take care of (kids grown and gone) so I don't need much to keep me happy. I'm not poor...but I'm not rich either. I'm comfortable. And the time it would take to get rich is not on my agenda. You and Nestor work together on your businesses. Gary has his job, I have my part time job, we both have businesses...but it is not on my agenda to have fame and fortune. Others may think differently and that's fine. It's not how I think and my opinion is mine. Thanks for sharing your own view.

Posted by Celeste "SALLY" Cheeseman HAWAII Relocations & Real Estate (Century 21 Liberty Homes) over 2 years ago
I don't have anything on my bucket list.  Honestly Sally, if I croaked tomorrow, there wouldn't be a thing I'd HAVE to live another day for. Is that bad?
Posted by ARDELL DellaLoggia (Sound Realty) over 2 years ago

I haven't seen the movie but it is high on my list of things to do.

I think in today's world we get so caught up in preperation for tomorrow that we forget to live today.  We never know how may tomorrow's we have so we need to make the most of every day.

Posted by "JT" Prevatte (Century 21 Family Realty, Relocation/Recruitment Director) over 2 years ago

I haven't seen the movie but it is high on my list of things to do.

I think in today's world we get so caught up in preperation for tomorrow that we forget to live today.  We never know how may tomorrow's we have so we need to make the most of every day.

Posted by "JT" Prevatte (Century 21 Family Realty, Relocation/Recruitment Director) over 2 years ago

Sally- Looks like I got here a little late....I just want to say that I agree, Moeny is not the most important thing in life....ya can't take it with you.  The simple things in life, to me, are what make this life worthwhile. A beautiful sunrise, or sunset.......a smile, an encouraging word, a congratulatory one, or even a sincere wish of condolences when we need them the most.

Walks in the rain, silly movies shared with someone, and crayon drawings by a child.  So many of lifes "lessons" and lifes treasures have absolutely nothing to do with fame, money, or how well we do our jobs. Sally, you talk about Balance.....and that is it......Balancing everything so that we don't have any regrets....and we find the time to enjoy the simple things in life......

Good Lesson.......now keep in mind just like any class....everyone interprets things differently and not everyone gets the same grade for learning....It is your lesson you were sharing, and that is all that matters :)

Posted by Kathy McGraw, Riverside County CA Real Estate (CELLing Realty) over 2 years ago

I'm going to create a bucket list too.  Love that trailer.  Thanks for the reminder!

Posted by Kate Bourland Empowering America to Live Debt Free (Financial Solutions Inc.) over 2 years ago

Woo Hoo Sally...

Well. I have lived my life on both sides of that fence...

Money may not buy happiness but sure does help :)

TLW...ROAR!  

Posted by "The Lovely Wife" (Broker Bryant's Wife) The One And Only TLW. (Co-Owner Tutas Towne Realty, Inc.) over 2 years ago
Wow...Sally You rock!  Well written blog about substance and quality in our lives. It is all about our choices and holding onto our values that matter.  If we live right, success will follow!
Posted by Jim Crawford ~ Atlanta Real Estate-ABR E-PRO (RE/MAX Greater Atlanta) over 2 years ago

Ardell: I don't have anything in my bucket list either...I have not made those kinds of lists...I only follow what I know is good for me. What may be bad for you may not be bad for me. If I were to "croak" right at this moment...I am happy with what I do have...AND...what I do not have. How's that? Live life and enjoy it is my thinking.

 

Posted by Celeste "SALLY" Cheeseman HAWAII Relocations & Real Estate (Century 21 Liberty Homes) over 2 years ago
Hi Sally,
Had planned to go see the movie tomorrow night but have to reschedule for a different night.  What was is Kathy said was her new motto?  "Live, love, laugh".  I think that just about covers it for me too.
Posted by Cynthia Tilghman, Realtor® Onslow County NC Home Specialist (Kingsbridge Realty, Inc) over 2 years ago
Thanks Sally for an insightful & inspiring post.  I have promised to take the time to actually write down my "bucket list".  So far, it is still rattling around in my head.  But one thing is for certain - Family members, both those we are born related to and those that we adopt into our life - have the number one priority in a good life.  Thanks for leading us by example.  It is a good life!
Posted by The Woodlands TX Kathi Frank (Prudential Gary Green Realtors) over 2 years ago

Hey Jeffrey:  Yeah...me too. I'm just happy with what success I do have. Some may need more..and more. I take what comes along.

Kathy: Thanks...what is it that when sharing MY point of view...a few just insist I see it their way. Hmm. I liked that. Keeps me from "following" everyone around :) I like my own opinion. Now...about those crayons...let me see if I have some around.

Kate: Wonder if anyone else watched it :)  Great movie...great lesson.

TLW: No one said about money not helping....but like in the movie ....Jack sure did treat people like crap (he thought money bought his happiness....and he was filthy rich)  and we need money to pay bills...but I sure know what it's like to be without...and I won't be like that again. I save :) and I don't need a fancy car and I paid my new one off already. :) That's about as extravagant as I get. In the movie, Jack took Morgan around the world, fancy this and that...only for Morgan to realize...what he wanted with the last of his time was to spend it with his family...Hope you get a chance to watch the movie. Tearjerker.

Thanks Jim! And that's what happens with me. Good things happen to good people (my husband always tells me that)  And if bad things happen..there's some kind of learning lesson in it...which makes it all good :)

 

Posted by Celeste "SALLY" Cheeseman HAWAII Relocations & Real Estate (Century 21 Liberty Homes) over 2 years ago

Cynthia:  Live, Love and Laugh is it!  You know what...if I did become rich I would travel around the world too. I would go to Tibet and visit the monks who live in the moment. That is what point I'd like to get to ...

Kathi: I somehow think you are in the same frame of mind. No matter what...I live a good life. I don't sit around and wonder how to pay my bills...and I sure don't sit around worrying about fame. I am famous in my own mind lol!  BTW...am working on it.. only have two pages but it'll get there!

Posted by Celeste "SALLY" Cheeseman HAWAII Relocations & Real Estate (Century 21 Liberty Homes) over 2 years ago
Well put "Sally"...I just saw the movie earlier today and it was very thought provoking to say the least. Yes, happiness lies within and we all have a choice. I have not made money or possessions a priority for years and value all that is FREE in this life. I loved the movie and the messages it had.  I hope you have a wonderful evening and week ahead.
Posted by George Tallabas - Idaho Real Estate (RE/MAX Advantage) over 2 years ago
George: Nice seeing ya! Oh, good...someone else who actually saw the movie. We all have choices and though we have to work to get the things we need /want in life and not all things are free...we still can choose our own priorities ,,,which are each individual's opinion. The movie was special. We usually sit at home with Blockbuster movies in the comfort of our own home without additional distractions. (there was an older couple right behind us and the woman talked through the whole movie ....theorizing what was going to happen next....that was annoying lol)
Posted by Celeste "SALLY" Cheeseman HAWAII Relocations & Real Estate (Century 21 Liberty Homes) over 2 years ago
Hi Sally - I didn't mean to be cryptic. I just meant that movie is high on my list of things I want to do.
Posted by Tom Plant (WINEormous.com) over 2 years ago
There are things i would like to do before i head to the next life. I was having lunch with my daughters and i told them i would like to see the Grand Canyon. There are other places i want to see and i will see them because i know the Lord will provide for me.
Posted by Robert L. Brown~Grand Rapids Real Estate Bellabay Realty, West Michigan (www.mrbrownsellsgr.com) over 2 years ago
OK... you've persuaded me to see that movie- sounds great!
Posted by Chuck Willman, Arizona Realtor® 480.292.0600 (Gentry Realty) over 2 years ago

Not enough really good movies , so this one is a treat. Thanks for the post.

Posted by Bob & Carolin Benjamin - E Phoenix Arizona Real Estate (Benjamin Realty LLC) over 2 years ago

Sally-My comment was not about you. I know you and I would never make a judgment on how you live your life. I was talking about many people I have coached who bought into money is bad and then these movies show rich people treat people like crap and rich people are bad and so on. They get that in their heads and it simply is not true. The truly rich people are those who are rich in spirit, relationships and money. And they put their money to good use. Rich people help poor people more than the government ever would want us to know.

BTW- I have a large bucket list and will live to at least 105 so I can do it all! :) Katerina

Posted by Nestor & Katerina Gasset Realtors® Wellington Florida Luxury Homes (International Properties and Investments, Inc.) over 2 years ago

Sally,

It sounds like an excellent movie....one of the kinds I would really enjoy. I like your list and agree with every one of your life truisms.

Tonight I was at my Dad and Stepmom's for dinner and my Stepmother (she's a retired teacher and now is a full time artist...I'll be doing a blog on her work sometime shortly) was telling me how saddened she is as over half of  the people she taught with over the years have died of cancer and most of them were the same age she is or younger than she is now (she is in her late sixties).  Cancer certainly is the scourge of the past century.

My Mother always says 'if there's something you want to do, don't wait til 'some day', because you might not be here.'  More and more I believe she's entirely right.

Did you ever read that book about '101 things to do before you die' or something like that? 

Jo 

Posted by Jo-Anne Smith- Oakville, Burlington and Mississauga Region Real Estate, Ont (Brekland Realty Group) over 2 years ago

Robert:  We have a miniature canyon on the island of Kauai. Spectacular. Seeing different places interests me. Scenery, ruins and stuff like that. Not big on Vegas and such. :)

Chuck:  If you like those two actors you'll have a good ole time. They are unreal actors and sure did this well together!

Bob/Carolin: Yes it is! Too many blood guts gore teeny bopper stuff out there...this was a nice change :)

Katerina: There's good and bad in all races, religions, industries and even rich vs. poor. No one said money was bad... the ONLY thing I said was No amount of money can buy happiness. Maybe I should have added..."Because happiness comes from within or something like that" :) 

....let me know when you see the movie :)

Posted by Celeste "SALLY" Cheeseman HAWAII Relocations & Real Estate (Century 21 Liberty Homes) over 2 years ago
Jo: I heard about that. I guess I'm enjoying a whole "new" life now so all the good stuff is inside. I feel good about me...feel good about a lot of things. Feeling good is something very rich for me....didn't get to do that for most of my life. I know one thing. Even if I did get something like cancer...I'd tell my husband...come on! Let's go cruising!  I refuse to just lay around and wait :) That's what I'm saving for....the "just in case".  (shhh....I just had an enlightening experience just now :)
Posted by Celeste "SALLY" Cheeseman HAWAII Relocations & Real Estate (Century 21 Liberty Homes) over 2 years ago
I just want to know that my girls are happy and I live for them.  So their list becomes my list :)
Posted by ARDELL DellaLoggia (Sound Realty) over 2 years ago
Oops...missed Tom:  Okay.... cryptic was it?  Maybe I was just all confused hahaha.
Posted by Celeste "SALLY" Cheeseman HAWAII Relocations & Real Estate (Century 21 Liberty Homes) over 2 years ago

Ardell: One thing about a mom..... they are always there for the kids...no matter how old they get. Good comeback.....  :)

Posted by Celeste "SALLY" Cheeseman HAWAII Relocations & Real Estate (Century 21 Liberty Homes) over 2 years ago

My bucket list will be to enjoy life to the fullest and be around the people that I love most...MY FAMILY

unfortunately I have to work

Phyllis Pafumi

Posted by Phyllis Pafumi-ReStyled to Sell Staging Homes NJ (ReStyled to Sell Home Staging New Jersey) over 2 years ago
Phyllis:  Ah,......now that's a good way to put it! I didn't say it better...you did!  I am at the age of enjoying myself...and still gotta work...
Posted by Celeste "SALLY" Cheeseman HAWAII Relocations & Real Estate (Century 21 Liberty Homes) over 2 years ago

Sally sounds like this is a movie that I need to see.  I like your list especially:

  • Nothing is more precious than my family and the love and closeness we share.
  • No amount of money can buy happiness.
  • No amount of fame 'makes' me a person.

Maybe it is time for me to make a “Bucket List” of my own.

Posted by George Souto (McCue Mortgage) FHA, CHFA, VA Mortgages CT. over 2 years ago

George: Okay...you get big <<<HUGS>>>  !!!!!  I love being understood :)  But then...you're Mr. all around good guy. I like my simple bucket list...if that's what living life is. All the "stuff" isn't so important. One "stuff" I can't get out of my head all day going through all the comments is.... going to Washington to visit Dad's ashes. I gotta call my step mom. Forgot the name of the cemetary.

Posted by Celeste "SALLY" Cheeseman HAWAII Relocations & Real Estate (Century 21 Liberty Homes) over 2 years ago
Sally I truly hope that you are able to do that.
Posted by George Souto (McCue Mortgage) FHA, CHFA, VA Mortgages CT. over 2 years ago

Hi Sally,

Congrats on your feature. I've had a list of my own for about 7 years now, ( my 101 things I want to do before I drop dead list I call it). So far I don't have that many, actually just under 50 yet I add to it every now and then. So far I've crossed of some, yet I have a long way to go.

BTW, not one has anything to do with real estate, except that r.e. "funds" many of the experiences listed.

Posted by Orange Co. Real Estate~Lynda Eisenmann, Broker-Owner, CRS,CRB,GRI,SRES, Brea, CA (Preferred Home Brokers) over 2 years ago
George: I think at best...next year when Gary gets his first vacation with the new job (he starts tomorrow) That I can shoot for. In fact. I'll make it a point to make sure and do something to start planning. Thanks George...incentive here. :)  I think I'll write a fan club letter to Jack and Morgan and tell them when I do it and why :)
Posted by Celeste "SALLY" Cheeseman HAWAII Relocations & Real Estate (Century 21 Liberty Homes) over 2 years ago
Lynda: Yeah....let's see ....did you put "meet Sally on January 28th?"  LOL!
Posted by Celeste "SALLY" Cheeseman HAWAII Relocations & Real Estate (Century 21 Liberty Homes) over 2 years ago
I mentioned making a bucket list to some of my friends. We've decided to put one together that includes things we want to do as a group. I'm also thinking of putting one together for myself. Congrats on the feature :)
Posted by Nicole Rae (ActiveRain Corp.) over 2 years ago
Nicole: That's pretty neat ... a group thing.  You should make your own group with  group buckets. That'd be different :) Thanks for stopping by Nicole!
Posted by Celeste "SALLY" Cheeseman HAWAII Relocations & Real Estate (Century 21 Liberty Homes) over 2 years ago

This does get you thinking.  I think that the first thing I need to do is get my will in order, then the bucket list. But I already have some ideas for my list in my head...maybe I'll write a post about it.  And I thought you were only a quarter century!

 

Posted by Burien, WA Real Estate - Lisa Bosques, Assoc. Broker/Mktg Specialist (Prudential Northwest Realty Associates LLC) over 2 years ago
Lisa: It got me thinking....I need to do something too. My daughter and son are a little over a quarter century :) Photoshop works wonders lol!
Posted by Celeste "SALLY" Cheeseman HAWAII Relocations & Real Estate (Century 21 Liberty Homes) over 2 years ago
 Hi Sally, after reading your post and hearing all the buzz, I have to see this movie!!! it's obviiously having a BIG impact on a lot of people.
Posted by marti garaughty, The Art Of Marketing You (garaughty Media) over 2 years ago

I have always had what I called a mental wish list. Things I wanted to do during my lifetime.

Good luck.

Posted by Richard Lecinski (Long Realty Company) over 2 years ago
Powerful stuff Sis!  With that cast & concept, it has to be a great movie!  I'm definately going to check it out and your post reigns so very true on many levels.
Posted by Jason Sardi, Mortgage Banker (FHA-VA-USDA-Conventional-Pennsylvania Loans) over 2 years ago

marti: I guaranty you'll love it!

Richard: I have that in my head everyday...it's called being aware :)

Jason..aka lil bro: I loved the movie....you would come out of there with an idea too :)

Posted by Celeste "SALLY" Cheeseman HAWAII Relocations & Real Estate (Century 21 Liberty Homes) over 2 years ago

Sally,

I'm not much on the movie theater, but I'll check it out when it hits Blockbuster. I like your transition from the big screen to my house. It really is all about balance and priorities. Thanks for the reminder.

Posted by Andrew Trevino Wilkes-Barre Homes For Sale (TradeMark Realtors Group) over 2 years ago
Andrew: We go to the theater once or twice a year. If it sounds like it will be a good one. I like movies that give me an aha after :)
Posted by Celeste "SALLY" Cheeseman HAWAII Relocations & Real Estate (Century 21 Liberty Homes) over 2 years ago
I used to have a bucket list. I lost in during one of our moves. I haven't even accomplished one on that list and I made it before I had kids. I imagine I have will have a lot more when I do another one!
Posted by Christy Powers - Pooler, Savannah Real Estate Agent (Keller Williams Coastal Area Partners) over 2 years ago

There is a good documentary called "Riding Giants" that interviews four generations of surfers.  One common thread ran through each generation - live in the moment.  There is one interview in particular with an onocologist/surfer who makes a great observation about how most people live life.  It's worth watching.

Posted by scott wooters over 2 years ago

Scott: And that is something I surely would enjoy watching. Living in the moment...is pretty much how I have to live mine. I do manage my time...and have learned to keep my business organized...the rest? Well, there are only a couple of things I would like to do. And it's still family oriented :) Thanks.

Christy: Mine I presume would have changed over the years...I'm down to a couple that matter.

Posted by Celeste "SALLY" Cheeseman HAWAII Relocations & Real Estate (Century 21 Liberty Homes) over 2 years ago
Sally, I liked the "Bucket List" movie and very much agree with your item of the need for balance in life. Time does move by swiftly too.
Posted by Gary Woltal - Associate Broker REALTOR® Dallas Ft. Worth (Keller Williams Realty) over 2 years ago
Gary: Time flies Gary....I am in the middle of my life (granted i live to be a hundred :)  and that passed by too quickly. The movie sure gave me a laugh, a bunch of chuckles and tears. I enjoyed it thoroughly.
Posted by Celeste "SALLY" Cheeseman HAWAII Relocations & Real Estate (Century 21 Liberty Homes) over 2 years ago

Sally, this was a great movie and you are right about what is in between is what matters.  I have had to put my life in perspective with being a new realtor. I love what I do and I tend to spend too much time on it. My husband is semi- retired and has more time on his hands.  I do need to spend more time with him at this stage in my life and know that in the end what does really matter.  Not the money or fame or even being a top realtor. It is how you treat others and to spend precious time with family and friends.  Time is so precious!

Vickie

Posted by Vickie Barrington - Carteret County Real Estate (Coldwell Banker First Realty) over 2 years ago

Vickie: And so the reason for me to just balance my time..I don't care about being rich or famous or a top realtor either. I'm tops in my own mind and inside :)  Oh....and my husband thinks I'm mighty great too :)

 I'm his love bug lol!

Posted by Celeste "SALLY" Cheeseman HAWAII Relocations & Real Estate (Century 21 Liberty Homes) over 2 years ago

Finding balance is sometimes easy, and sometimes exhausting for me. When all else fails, I just ride with it and hope the wind settles and I can find the place I need to be. I love the whirlwind my profession sometimes brings my way. And as to my personal life, I used to hope for harmony and ease, but have recently come to love the crazy and tumultuous ride it can be.

My bucket list for now? Just enjoy the ride for what it is and be joyful I was given this ticket in the first place.... :)



MWA Sally!! 

Posted by Allentown PA Real Estate Broker * Jennifer Monroe * over 2 years ago
Balance isn't easy.... I sure as heck try though. My professional and personal life is....well. ...content. I know some people have a grand bucket list. Mine just has a couple.
Posted by Celeste "SALLY" Cheeseman HAWAII Relocations & Real Estate (Century 21 Liberty Homes) over 2 years ago
Sally - see you there - I am going to make the list too -
Posted by BarbaraJo's Blog - Clearwater and Pinellas County Florida Real Estate - (Charles Rutenberg Realty) over 2 years ago

B/B: I'll look for it!

Posted by Celeste "SALLY" Cheeseman HAWAII Relocations & Real Estate (Century 21 Liberty Homes) over 2 years ago
So important to keep priorities straight and not get caught up in what so many in this world believe is important.  For me it is God, Family, Friends.  What else is actually real?  Funny that the more something can be measured the less important it truly is...
Posted by Colorado Springs Real Estate - Joyce Heffner-Williams - EcoBroker Certified (Keller Williams Client's Choice Realty - Colorado) over 2 years ago

I also haven't seen "bucket list" but your post was awesome.

Posted by Steve Ramirez (Legacy Homes Realty) over 2 years ago

Troy: Great insight Troy....I surely believe that too.

Steve: Thanks and see you around!

Posted by Celeste "SALLY" Cheeseman HAWAII Relocations & Real Estate (Century 21 Liberty Homes) over 2 years ago

I read most of the comments here and I can say I agree with the majority of people here.....

  • Balance in all things is so important.....
  • Having the right priorities in life will make your life rich and full of meaning.

Everything else is just smoke and mirrors..... all the other stuff just leaves you empty inside..... it just will not satisfy you.

  • Money, while nice, is just a tool....
  • Material possessions are just that....
  • Fame is just as much an illusion as material possessions ---
    as you saw in the movie, Sally... You don't necessarily get
    nicer as you get more money or possessions.

What Troy said I think sums it all up....

  1. God
  2. Family
  3. Freinds
     

I can see why your group is so popular, Sally...it has
YOUR values and priorities all over it!!

God bless you! 

=-)

Posted by Chicago, Illinois homes for sale ---- Alexander Harb (The Knights Team Referral Group) over 2 years ago
Thanks Alex....I believe that some just need a break from all the monotony in the "world" and need to regroup and figure out what their priorties are.....I believe that no mattere what...no two individuals will have the same bucket list, Thanks.
Posted by Celeste "SALLY" Cheeseman HAWAII Relocations & Real Estate (Century 21 Liberty Homes) over 2 years ago

 

What matters is knowing you HAVE a bucket-a life-that is a gift to you and you can look to your Creator, family and friends to fill it up with love.

That being said, I think a great cheeseburger goes a LONG way on the "What Matters...." list.

 

Steve

Posted by Obeoman Glade Jones (www.obeo.com) over 2 years ago
Steve: Had one of those for dinner last night...woohoo!
Posted by Celeste "SALLY" Cheeseman HAWAII Relocations & Real Estate (Century 21 Liberty Homes) over 2 years ago

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