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Our Legacy on ActiveRain ---and Our Written Words

We have been growing our ActiveRain Real Estate Network since the summer of 2006. It has grown into one of the largest real estate platforms that have a ‘hands on approach’ with the staff helping all of us to achieve a common goal.

MORE BUSINESS.

While being a member on ActiveRain since March of 2007 I have tried to be a driving “POSITIVE” source in ActiveRain.  It never fails to amaze me how we can take a negative and turn it into a positive. ….OR Vice Versa.

DO YOU DRIVE READERS AWAY FROM YOUR BLOG?

The Legacy We Leave Behind: I’ve always believed that we live …and we die and it’s what we do IN BETWEEN those two life events is what REALLY matters. We live our every day lives with good morals and values and we leave a lasting impression on our children, relatives, friends and even business associates. My ONLINE legacy and Presence IS a positive one and it is what I want to be remembered for.

Stir the Pot:  Some think that stirring the pot in a negative way is a great way to gain readership. Negativity breeds negativity.  Like kind attract like kind people. Okay, we all know that those that feel the need for attention will get a load of comments from others who feel they have been ‘wronged’. Those that focus on what others have …well, I feel sorry that they do not realize their FULL potential and what they DO have instead of focusing on what they have not. Cup Half Full or Pouring Out Empty?

Online Presence:  How we write online will affect our businesses, our connections and definitely our referrals. Write a condescending blog or comment and it will drive the consumer away from YOU.  Online words are out there to STAY. And get this—ANYONE is able to sign up on ActiveRain. You think a Members Only Post will not be read by the consumer. Again---ANYONE can join this real estate network and will read your blog. Choose to blurt out personal feelings against this network and you will have a truckload of us who believe in stewardship.

Real Estate Network:  Most of us are Real Estate Professionals and even those that have nail salons and such are part of the business community and use this network to ….NETWORK.  We network to connect as professionals and more often than not we MAKE FRIENDS along the way! I have received referrals and given referrals and THIS is the type of SUCCESS that I measure for my connections made here in the RAIN!

We Network and Connect……

And Content is King……

The Legacy We Leave Behind...

Online, ActiveRain....and LIFE.

                                                       

 

Celeste "Sally" Cheeseman  is a Realtor-Associate® and Certified Residential Specialist (CRS) with Century 21 Liberty Homes in Mililani, Hawaii. With a sharp understanding that a listening ear is the key to a client's needs  she serves the island of Oahu (Honolulu County) and all Hawaii Military Relocations, Hawaii Retirees, Hawaii Job Transfers and Hawaii Residents, Home Buyers and Sellers.

 

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Comment balloon 64 commentsCeleste "SALLY" Cheeseman • July 13 2013 10:01AM

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Sally well said and I will leave it at that.

Posted by George Souto, Your Connecticut Mortgage Expert (George Souto NMLS #65149 FHA, CHFA, VA Mortgages) about 4 years ago

Sally- you are so right with this one.  This is a new world and social media plays a huge part.  What we say in real life or virtually does live on and reflect on us. 

Posted by Kathy Streib, Home Stager - Palm Beach County,FL -561-914-6224 (Room Service Home Staging) about 4 years ago

George:  Always trying to see the 'right' side....if there is a right/wrong  vs. positive/negative side to all situations. All I know is that you and I have been here for quite awhile and we know the ins/outs. I feel it is better to try and educate...even though sometimes it falls on deaf ears (blind eye)

Kathy:  In real life we live as good human beings. What some say here wouldn't normally be said if face to face. I on the other hand will be just as I am here and those that I have actually met in person are the same. The REAL people behind the words.

Posted by Celeste "SALLY" Cheeseman, (RA) AHWD CRS ePRO OAHU HAWAII REAL ESTATE (Century 21 Liberty Homes) about 4 years ago

P.S.  I chose to use the same picture as my Wordless Wednesday. It is a shadow of my daughter, my grandson and me at the beach cottage two weekends ago. Yes, the legacy I leave behind is how I taught my children...and how she is teaching my grandson. Good morals, values and beliefs :)

Posted by Celeste "SALLY" Cheeseman, (RA) AHWD CRS ePRO OAHU HAWAII REAL ESTATE (Century 21 Liberty Homes) about 4 years ago

Spoken like a TRUE ambassador, Sally!  All excellent points.  Funny but, I often wonder if negative, complaining writers ever even think that the public is busy at work, forming an opinion of them without them ever knowing it.  

Stay focused on your business in a positive manner and good things will happen!

Posted by Debe Maxwell, CRS, Charlotte Homes for Sale - Charlotte Neighborhoods (www.AtHomesCharlotte.com | The Maxwell House Group | RE/MAX Executive | (704) 491-3310) about 4 years ago

Very true Sally, it is important to always be a positive influence in our blogs, our customers are watching.

Posted by Bob Crane, Forestland Experts! 715-204-9671 (Woodland Management Service / Woodland Real Estate, Keller Williams fox cities) about 4 years ago

Sally, it doesn't take a lot to create a negative image, and that can hurt for a long time. Good Post

Posted by Ed Silva, Central CT Real Estate Broker Serving all equally (RE/MAX Professionals, CT 203-206-0754 ) about 4 years ago
Sally-I hope I don't drive people away based on negativity and complaining. I don't want to be seen as a grumpy Gus.
Posted by Wayne Johnson, San Antonio REALTOR, San Antonio Homes For Sale (Coldwell Banker D'Ann Harper REALTORS®) about 4 years ago

Your legacy has nothing to fret!

Posted by Laura Cerrano, Certified Feng Shui Expert, Speaker & Researcher (Feng Shui Manhattan Long Island) about 4 years ago

Sally, this is an important message for all members.

Posted by Sharon Parisi, Dallas Homes (United Real Estate Dallas ) about 4 years ago

Sally , Thank you for the reminder. I am glad this post is featured so more members will read it.

Posted by Gita Bantwal, REALTOR,ABR,CRS,SRES,GRI - Bucks County & Philadel (RE/MAX Centre Realtors) about 4 years ago

Not surprising such great post coming from you Sally. .you are a great dame and an inspiring member of our community. .

A great point about comments.  . I attribute a listing to one I specifically wrote and the reason why they chose me.

Everything you write is a reflection of you and should be carefully designed to represent a professional pleasant personality

 

Posted by Fernando Herboso - Broker for Maxus Realty Group, 301-246-0001 Serving Maryland, DC and Northern VA (Maxus Realty Group - Broker 301-246-0001) about 4 years ago

From one Sally to another...you are soooo right....words  live on long after they leave the keyboard.

Posted by Sally K. & David L. Hanson, WI Realtors - Luxury - Divorce - Short Sale (Keller Williams 414-525-0563) about 4 years ago

Sally, how true. I find it interesting that people feel "safe" to say things online that they won't say in person. And these words can live on forever...

Positive is always better than negative. If you disagree with what you are reading, move on.

Conflict created is conflict remembered by many....

Posted by Andrea Swiedler, Realtor, Southern Litchfield County CT (Coldwell Banker Residential Brokerage) about 4 years ago

Sally, excellent points especially about the Members Only posts. Thanks for the reminder.

Posted by Michael Setunsky, Your Commercial Real Estate Link to Northern VA about 4 years ago

Be a meat and potato blogger that promotes the local community events and the property listings in it. Round out with the FAQ blog posts, anything that saves time, money for the buyer and seller. That is a little red hen blogger that delivers.

Posted by Andrew Mooers, Northern Maine Real Estate-Aroostook County Broker (MOOERS REALTY) about 4 years ago

It's important for everyone using social media, AR included, to realize that what you say online is permanent and easily accessible by everyone and anyone forever.

Posted by Wayne and Jean Marie Zuhl, The Last Names You'll Ever Need in Real Estate (Hallmark Realtors) about 4 years ago

This is a great message Sally.  I've been guilty of writing a negative rant from time to time.  I never get too personal or too angry, but it's fun to stir the pot every once in a while, as long as it doesn't paint yourself in a negative light.  

Posted by Amanda Christiansen, Christiansen Group Realty (Christiansen Group Realty (260)704-0843) about 4 years ago

Great post and great reminder.  Once the toothpaste is out of the tube, it is impossible to get it back in.

Posted by Gary Frimann, REALTOR and Broker (Eagle Ridge Realty / Signature Homes & Estates) about 4 years ago

Good post and share and anytime you can get George in summer cubicle #1 to say..."I will leave it at that" well you got something here....thank you

Posted by Richie Alan Naggar, agent & author (people first...then business Ran Right Realty ) about 4 years ago

I have been writing and talking on radio programs about the real estate market since the late 70's. Consumers don't like  negative comments, but I have found that they do appreciate honest assessment. Cheerleading or hyping the market creates a dangerous environment for the consumers. Positive yes, but too much fluff makes us look bad too.

Posted by Chris Miller Nevada Land with Water Rights, Land with Water Rights For Sale (Vegas Grand Realty and Property Management) about 4 years ago

Clients will always check your online presence. Many people have complimented me with my online presence. It is important now start blogging

Posted by Harry F. D'Elia, Investor , Mentor, GRI, Radio, CIPS, REOs, ABR (Real Estate and Beyond, LLC) about 4 years ago

So true -

I LOVE the picture - back of the head shots for scenic momento's have always been my favorites, but I've never thought to include the shadows - such a memory trigger!  Thanks for the fabulous share!

Posted by Elise Harron, Rural Vacant Land and Development Specialist (Dirt Road Real Estate) about 4 years ago

Many excellent points but particular the idea that consumers can join and member should be careful with controversial posts.  I've made some great connections here and mostly because my posts are positive and helpful.

Posted by Bryan Robertson, Broker, Author, Speaker (Intero Real Estate) about 4 years ago

Nothing is private if you put it on the internet. You're right, a member's only post could be seen by anyone who decides to sign up for the rain. If you need to vent, do it offline, off of the computer.

Posted by Suzanne Otto, Your Montgomery County PA home stager (Six Twenty Designs) about 4 years ago

Sally:  I especially like the portion of your post when you write about negativity.  Being a Mortgage Lender, I feel there's enough negativity hovering around my industry already ... I don't need to add to it.  Plus what purpose does it serve??  I'd rather educate and inform ... much more positive ...

Lots of great points to digest here.  Just a beautiful post ...

Gene

Posted by Gene Mundt, IL/WI Mortgage Originator - FHA/VA/Conv/Jumbo/Portfolio/Refi, 708.921.6331 - 40+ yrs experience (NMLS #216987, IL Lic. 031.0006220, WI Licensed. APMC NMLS #175656) about 4 years ago

WOW! A feature..thank you!

Debe: I know we've been preaching about all this for years, but it will be hard for them to comprehend because they believe that they are shielded by the "members only" status. EVERY INDIVIDUAL ON THE FACE OF THE PLANET CAN SIGN UP ON ACTIVERAIN. That's why we get spammed by ones that sign up...and then start spamming everyone. Luckily they get caught after so many clicks on "report a concern". But my clients, your clients and everyone's clients and the consumer that is browsing can join!

Posted by Celeste "SALLY" Cheeseman, (RA) AHWD CRS ePRO OAHU HAWAII REAL ESTATE (Century 21 Liberty Homes) about 4 years ago

Bob: Yes….OUR CONSUMERS ARE WATCHING!  So we are mindful of how we ‘speak’ in public!  Members Only posts do not shield those from the consumer’s eyes!

Ed:  Exactly!  The written word is on the internet …..for always.

Wayne:  If you don’t write negative posts…then I wouldn’t worry J ….and you don’t want to be seen as a Grumpy Gus or a Whining Wayne LOL LOL

Posted by Celeste "SALLY" Cheeseman, (RA) AHWD CRS ePRO OAHU HAWAII REAL ESTATE (Century 21 Liberty Homes) about 4 years ago

Laura:  And yours too!

Sharon:  It has been an ongoing message. I wonder if  others will heed the message or turn a blind eye.

Gita:  Me too!  The more that read, the more that heed!

Posted by Celeste "SALLY" Cheeseman, (RA) AHWD CRS ePRO OAHU HAWAII REAL ESTATE (Century 21 Liberty Homes) about 4 years ago

Awww Fernando!   Thanks much…it’s been a long haul and many others will heed the message and hopefully realize that being a negative driving force will impact their ability to connect with the right people here …..would you refer other members who have nothing else to do but whine?

HI SALLY!!!  Yup!  It’s just amazing how one thinks that they can click on Members Only and think that it won’t be seen by the consumer.  Guess what ….the consumer signed up too!

Andrea:  Exactly!  Little do they realize what they say online is AS meeting face to face. And that first impression the consumer makes when reading all the personal whining will be ….I definitely don’t want to hire that person

Posted by Celeste "SALLY" Cheeseman, (RA) AHWD CRS ePRO OAHU HAWAII REAL ESTATE (Century 21 Liberty Homes) about 4 years ago
What a great reminder for us all. Also, this post is an excellent example of well written and well organized blogging.
Posted by Mark Delgado, Benicia and Vallejo, Property Management, rental h (houses for rent, Solano County & Glen Cove) about 4 years ago

Celeste, I was trying to comment on this last night then suddenly AR took an Intermission. I am so happy to see this post is Featured.  I try my very best to stay positive and avoid the negative/toxic people who like drama and stirring the pot. If anyone has left a un-serving comment or attempted to hurt you in any way ... I am so sorry for that. You deserve only the best.  

Posted by Kathleen Daniels, San Jose Homes for Sale - Probate Broker (KD Realty - 408.972.1822) about 4 years ago

Sally - I do not think that critical materials, and critical viewpoints are bad thing in discussion among the peers, but I think we have one thing missing on AR, and it is having members, when signing, support their professional status by proving they are licensed professionals.

It would be very useful to have the ability to only include professionals in the discussion of some trade issues, and not everyone, who sign for AR

Posted by Jon Zolsky, Daytona Beach, FL, Buy Daytona condos for heavenly good prices (Daytona Condo Realty, 386-405-4408) about 4 years ago

That living in the DASH between birth and death Sally is all we have, so we can be bitter or better. I opt for the positive like yourself. Makes every day the best it can be.

Posted by Gary Woltal, Assoc. Broker Realtor SFR Dallas Ft. Worth (Keller Williams Realty) about 4 years ago

Kathleen ...oh, no...not me. Just a reminder for all that whining about features, points or what others have and they do not is so unbecoming of a professional lol

Posted by Celeste "SALLY" Cheeseman, (RA) AHWD CRS ePRO OAHU HAWAII REAL ESTATE (Century 21 Liberty Homes) about 4 years ago

Gary...very good choice of words...being bitter is so unbecoming of a professional who should just strive to be better.

Posted by Celeste "SALLY" Cheeseman, (RA) AHWD CRS ePRO OAHU HAWAII REAL ESTATE (Century 21 Liberty Homes) about 4 years ago

Sally - yes, and what we put out on the internet stays out there. This is a great reminder.....that wouldn't be your little cutie in the middle of that shadow, would it??? He is getting so big already!!!!!

Posted by Barbara-Jo Roberts Berberi, MA, PSA, TRC - Greater Clearwater Florida Residential Real Estate Professional, Palm Harbor, Dunedin, Clearwater, Safety Harbor (Charles Rutenberg Realty) about 4 years ago

Anyone can sign up for active rain really  REALLY REALLY NO WAY  !!!! So why is it called a real estate network. Hmmmm really

Posted by Laura Filip RE/MAX UTOPIA | 903-271-4978, Your locally owned RE/MAX OFFICE (RE/MAX UTOPIA , Serving all of Texoma ) about 4 years ago
Sally, so nicely put! And you're right on the mark. Blogging here doesn't work for careless writers.
Posted by Patricia Kennedy, For Your Home in the Capital (Evers & Company Real Estate, Inc.) about 4 years ago

Laura:  Because it's 'geared' towards real estate. If we think about it....REAL Estate is all around us. Local areas (we have to know our neighborhoods)...businesses, local history....so we leave it open for all to join.  THIS is where the consumer is looking to hire an agent, a home inspector and even my clients joined.  I had clients who were reading my blog for 1-2 years. THEN, they called me. They liked the personal side of me, that I knew the history around my area, that I knew my market..and one of them flat out said...I like the person you are. I didn't whine about how others got more features than me and I didn't cut down other professionals.

Barbara:  Oh...he is a walking talking toddler now....and so much fun!!

Jon.  I always believed that it doesn't matter if anyone could join. Anyone can join in other places as well. If I am writing as if the person is right next to me...then I really don't have anything to hide. I can't remember when the last time I ever posted a 'members only' post. Whatever I am writing about is just like I am in person.  I am not one to keep whining about how other agents have this or that. I don't whine or nag about how everything should be handed on a silver platter.

Things to ponder ......

  • FOLKS...if it's one thing I take a look at ...is looking at myself and what I need to do to better myself and my business. Even with blogging. How can I better my content. If I am writing good content , the consumer is reading it. Even with this blog about how I carry myself online....it is how I carry myself face to face.
  • I think I can speak for many of us members here. We have all felt the 'pain' of getting just a few features. I don't have as many features as a lot of old timers. BUt I can bet I am just as successful as they are in getting business from my blog.  THIS is what ActiveRain is all about. 
  • I often wonder how so many professionals are able to sit on this site and just keep 'tabs on other members and their blogs'.  How much business do they have? Is this an individual that I would refer my clients to?????

Ah....I think.....

Posted by Celeste "SALLY" Cheeseman, (RA) AHWD CRS ePRO OAHU HAWAII REAL ESTATE (Century 21 Liberty Homes) about 4 years ago

The Internet (and what we post) will be around long after we are gone.  I often think about what my grandchildren and future generations will find when they Google their grandmother (or great times who knows what).  It's a strong reminder to post only the best and let the rest go unspoken.  A fabulous and much needed post!

Posted by Norma Toering Broker for Palos Verdes and Beach Cities, Palos Verdes & Beach Cities Homes in L.A. (Charlemagne International Properties) about 4 years ago

Sometimes the truth hurts!  I've had callers ask me to perform certain things which I can not do.  No one likes hearing "No" so it's all about perception.  A "No" is a negative, but sometimes people need to hear it.

Posted by Carla Muss-Jacobs, Principal Broker (503) 810-7192, Buyer Focused ~ Buyer Results (BuyersAgentPortland.com | Portland Metro Exclusive Buyers Agent | 100% Buyer Representation ~ 100% of the Time) about 4 years ago

I have had a few negative comments on a few of my posts, I learned from someone very early here, just thank them for commenting and move on.  Richie kind of taught me that as well, he is always gracious regardless of the comment.

Posted by Scott Larson, Park City, Utah Real Estate News (BHHS/Utah Properties) about 4 years ago

Celeste, I wish this blog could be featured multiple times! Very well written and so true. We're human, sometimes emotions take control, I know I've done it. Can't take back what I've done wrong but strive to do it better each and every day.

Posted by Beth Atalay, Cam Realty of Clermont FL (Cam Realty and Property Management) about 4 years ago

Thank you for your post but if my members only posts are not being seen my realtor members only I will no longer post as members only nor will I comment openly on my thoughts on topics. Again Thank you for your post it was very informative and useful. I really thought my comments were to members only those that were of the real estate field only. Have a blessed day we are always learning something here.

Oh yes I am sorry to hear that it is like this.

Posted by Laura Filip RE/MAX UTOPIA | 903-271-4978, Your locally owned RE/MAX OFFICE (RE/MAX UTOPIA , Serving all of Texoma ) about 4 years ago

Thinking of active rain as not just a passing tool, but as a lasting legacy is reflective of your positive outlook and your commitment to professionalism. Thanks for the post.

Posted by Ralph Gorgoglione, Hawaii and California Real Estate (800) 591-6121 (Maui Life Homes / Metro Life Homes) about 4 years ago

Great post, especially the reminder that a Members Only post is just a bump if a consumer wants to read it. 

Posted by Karen Fiddler, Broker/Owner, Orange County & Lake Arrowhead, CA (949)510-2395 (Karen Parsons-Fiddler, Broker 949-510-2395) about 4 years ago

Sally, Thank you for writing this.

Posted by Debbie Reynolds, Your Dedicated Clarksville TN Real Estate Agent (Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices PenFed Realty, Your Clarksville Real Estate Professional) about 4 years ago

Active Rain is a great learning post that broadens my knowledge and horizons in the industry. I love reading the blogs from people all over the country. I put the TV down a year ago and picked up Active Rain which is more stimulating for the brain.  Thanks

Posted by Jimmy Faulkner, The Best Of St. Augustine (Florida. Homes Realty & Mortgage) about 4 years ago

Sally, There are some posts that I wish were mandatory reading for all participating members and this is one.  It seems no how many times the core message of this post is put out, some members refuse to grasp the importance of the message.  I don't have much time for pot stirrers, and I really fear for those that they lead astray with their negative message.  It actually hurts the community rather than building it up.  The groupthink involved is deceptive, the writer gets reinforcement over a perceived sleight, and truly nothing good comes out of it.  Unfortunately the writers and commenters that most need to read and heed probably either won't ever read this or if they do, not think it pertains to them. 

Posted by Liz and Bill Spear, RE/MAX Elite Warren County OH (Cincinnati/Dayton) (RE/MAX Elite 513.520.5305 www.LizTour.com) about 4 years ago

Great reminder that this is not just about the 330,000 members but the MILLIONS anywhere in the world that could read our posts. 

Posted by Florida Tolbert Team Keller Williams Advantage, Million $ Guild Member Cert Luxury Home Mkting Spc (Keller Williams Advantage III Realty in Lake Nona) about 4 years ago

Sally,

Great advice!

On the other hand, I often feel like Socrates, a social gadfly

"

False words are not only evil in themselves, but they infect the soul with evil." Socrates 

I don't believe in going negative, but wrong is wrong!

I’.m not talking about different opinions, but endangering the public or naive readers licencee.

I pray that my legacy includes understanding and my epitaph reads "He was right."

Bill

Posted by William J. Archambault, Jr. (The Real Estate Investment Institute ) about 4 years ago

Like attracts like. I also prefer to share positive news and God's love with people rather than be a volcano of  anger.

Posted by Michelle Carr-Crowe-Top 1% Diamond Certified Real Estate Team Sells Cupertino San Jose Homes-Just Call 408-252-8900, Family Helping Families Buy & Sell Homes 40+ Years (Get Results Team...Just Call (408) 252-8900!) about 4 years ago

My blogging has this one rule...in all things be honest, truthful and considerate. Even a negative can be a positive if handled with consideration.

Posted by Gary L. Waters, Broker Owner, Waters Realty of Brevard, LLC, ... a small office, delivering big service! (Waters Realty of Brevard, LLC) about 4 years ago

Sally, This is a good reminder not only for our "Members Only" posts, but also our texting and e-mail messages.  I try to stay professional and positive in all my communications.  You never know who will see what you have written and it is a reflection of who we are.  I was recently engaged in a nasty FaceBook pile up where I was on the bottom of the pile.  It went on for several months until the Moderator finally took all the posts down and apologized for allowing it to occur, but during that time I got a number of e-mails from people who thought I handled myself professionally and with tact and dignity.  By now, few remember the content of the battle, but they remember the tone of the interchange and who was mean and who was nice.  It pays to take the high road, always!  Thank you for continuing to reinforce that message on AR.

Posted by Gail Robinson, CRS, GRI, e-PRO Fairfield County, CT (William Raveis Real Estate) about 4 years ago

Nice post.  I simply try to be positive but honest in all my written and verbal moments.  Sometimes the news is not so good.  But two sides to everything.  I find one'soverall attitude will always come through.  So choose your professionals wisely.

Posted by John F Muscarella, Broker/Owner, Venice, FL, Florida's Suncoast (RIVER FARM PROPERTIES, LLC) about 4 years ago

I have been telling posters this for years.  Just because you've designated your post as "member's only" doesn't mean that the general public can't read it.

Your clients can join Active Rain as members, so can your competition and your ex-wife and your boss.

Posted by Alan May, Helping you find your way home. (Coldwell Banker Residential) about 4 years ago

Ralph:  I like when there is a positive message and your creative comment is something I wish I had :)

Jimmy:  That sounds like me in the first few years.  I now have 'learned' to get off at 7pm and retire to watch tv or I miss 'So you think you can dance' lol.

Liz and Alan:  Believe me...over the years I have written MANY posts on this same topic. It would seem that the message it is intended for are the ones who don't comment on. I'm sure it's being read though.

Posted by Celeste "SALLY" Cheeseman, (RA) AHWD CRS ePRO OAHU HAWAII REAL ESTATE (Century 21 Liberty Homes) about 4 years ago

Gail...you are absolutely right! I had an agent who 'pretended' he was a seasoned agent who had a 'team'.  He would leave lengthy emails in response to my one sentence replies such as please make this a professional transaction. In the end he made the mistake of cc'ing my broker (who I had been telling about the course of the transaction. It started with him accusing my client of lying about what happened with a stain on the kitchen ceiling from grease. In the end, I cc'd his broker and he was 'dealt' with. Those emails are 'preserved' in my database lol.

I left a lengthy comment on your blog. FOLKS...read her post (Reflections on Our Journey With Pancreatic Cancer) and just know...that THESE are the connections we make on ActiveRain that make a difference. Those that choose to create havoc in 'public' instead of contacting staff or the individual they have a problem with is unacceptable.

PICK THE PHONE up and have a conversation with the other person before blasting them on a public forum. You will usually find that the other person is really a nice person.

Posted by Celeste "SALLY" Cheeseman, (RA) AHWD CRS ePRO OAHU HAWAII REAL ESTATE (Century 21 Liberty Homes) about 4 years ago

Gary: Your statement----  Even a negative can be a positive if handled with consideration.  More often than not...someone will feel they are wronged and make a whole post about the staff, the person, a group and then some. I guess the extra points for a post is more important than being a professional and meeting half way to find a solution instead of being the ongoing problem.

Posted by Celeste "SALLY" Cheeseman, (RA) AHWD CRS ePRO OAHU HAWAII REAL ESTATE (Century 21 Liberty Homes) about 4 years ago
Sally, Thank you for taking the time to share so much with me in your comment on my post. I will never forget your phone call when I was in the hospital with my husband and had just posted on AR about his illness and dire prognosis. I feel closer to you and some of my AR friends than my F2F friends. You are so right, the connections we've made over the years run deep. Thank you for your friendship.
Posted by Gail Robinson, CRS, GRI, e-PRO Fairfield County, CT (William Raveis Real Estate) about 4 years ago

No problem Gail...it is like you say...the connections from years past run deep here.

Posted by Celeste "SALLY" Cheeseman, (RA) AHWD CRS ePRO OAHU HAWAII REAL ESTATE (Century 21 Liberty Homes) about 4 years ago

Hey, Sally!  How'd I miss this when you posted it?  I just caught on Carla Muss Jacobs' reblog.  You nailed it - blogging works best when we accentuate the positive.

Posted by Patricia Kennedy, For Your Home in the Capital (Evers & Company Real Estate, Inc.) about 4 years ago

This is a wonderful reminder of the legacy of words.  I hope that the open and honest opinions that many members do pour out will continue to be written without fear of a non member seeing them.  Even negative or ranting feelings can be couched in a way that do not reflect badly on the poster.

Posted by Marnie Matarese, Showing you the best of Sarasota! (DWELL REAL ESTATE) about 4 years ago

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